Are you drowning in sensitivity
by Mark Goudie on Mar 14, 2023
It has been said every person in their adulthood will suffer from a mental illness at one point in their lives, so it's not a matter of if, but when this will happen. Mental illness is loosely described as a health problem that significantly affects how a person feels, thinks, behaves, and interacts with other people. If you have ever been to a psychologist you would know that your emotions play a big part in the outcome of a mental health diagnosis.
We are taught that our emotions are ours and ours only. This comes from the pretence that we are individuals having a unique bodily experience, rather than intelligible souls who are connected to collective consciousness.
Our emotions are the metaphysics that steer our existence and alter our environment.
Our society doesn't teach us about our emotions as they are metaphysical and vary from person to person, creating our unique perspective and experience. But because we aren‚Äôt taught about what they are, or what to do with them, we continue on in life without any understanding of how to navigate them.
If you are highly sensitive you are sensitive to the feelings of others. The more empathic you are the more you realise others' emotions, and if you are unaware, you can take on these emotions as if they are your own. Most sensitive people are burdened by this and need to constantly retreat to re-energise. In fact, if you are extremely sensitive you are like a chameleon, morphing into how others feel, momentarily becoming their experience; If they are angry, then you become angry, if they are frustrated, you are even more frustrated as you have no frame of reference where these emotions are coming from.
In understanding this then it's suffice to say that your emotional experience consists of both your emotions and the emotions of others in your environment.
Because we believe that the emotions we experience are all ours, we take on others emotions as if they were our own. This contributes to more processing, potential burnout and a great deal of energy consumed in resolving them. Taking on others emotions can lead to the destruction of self worth, insecurities, stress, depression or anxiety.
The result is a sensitive individual in a continual state of confusion, due their inability to separate their feelings from the others. How can we process feelings and the emotions of others when we don't understand the context or the relationship with them?
For example, a sensitive person can walk into a room full of people and feel overwhelmed almost immediately. They can be consumed by the room's energy.
More people are working less with their emotions.
Concluded studies over the past 30 years at universities in the US, have shown that people have become more narcissistic now than they were in the 80's. These studies suggest that people are thinking less about others and more about themselves. When a person is more narcissistic they disconnect from themselves and become more robotic, where feelings are not realised or dealt with. It is a degree of unresolved feelings and emotions. Ignoring our emotions affects our energy and this unresolved energy spills out into our environment, affecting the contentment of those around us.
We are having a unique experience, but also a collective experience
In knowing that our emotions are both unique and collective we can start to become aware of how we are feeling in the moment, asking ourselves the question "is it mine or someone else's?". By being aware of ourselves we can better let go of others emotions, so that we can feel lighter and process only what we need to.
We have been taught to compete with each other from a young age. This state of competition makes us focus on I (the individual) and we find ourselves only ever dealing with our own thoughts and feelings.
We believe that if we can only make ourselves happy then our lives will be happy. But with this notion we are forgetting that we are connected to others through their energy, their thoughts and feelings.
When we realise that we are connected to each other and not having a singular experience, we can truly understand the importance of collective happiness. But only after we resolve ourselves and the state of I (Our desires of things, achievement and self progress) can we focus on helping others be happy. Because it's in helping others where we get a true sense of gratification, that provides us with deep intrinsic happiness.
When we raise collective happiness and boost the happy average, the heavy energetic effects on sensitive people will dissipate, allowing them to experience lighter energy.